• Kim, The Food Allergy Coach

    posted on August 20, 2009 at 10:42 am

    I’ve been keeping up with this series of posts. Thank you for your honesty, insight, and willingness to share this very personal part of yourself. As someone who has also struggled with weight, I can see much of myself in your words.

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    Amy Reply:

    Every time I get a comment on this series, my stomach flips a little bit. It is such a personal aspect of my life and I have been so harshly criticized by so many people for how I eat. Over and over, though, I read comments like yours and decide that I’ve made the right choice in opening up about my struggle. Thanks so much for your honesty – I know it’s not easy but it will help the next person.

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  • Lauren

    posted on August 20, 2009 at 2:38 pm

    I love that. “Perfection is not the goal. Sanity is” So true!! I have this idea of perfect.. we all do, but its always this unachievable goal. I’d rather be sane than overthinking and overdoing my eating and my exercising.

    I know it isn’t easy to open up to anyone willing to read about all of this, but you do it beautifully. Sometimes letting out our semi-secrets can really help us accept them. I know my blog has helped me let go of certain things. However, it still weirds me out when someone I know (in person) reads what I’ve written.

    Also, don’t let the negatives get in. Criticism over what you eat is never worth listening to. Sure, there are aspects of many diets I don’t understand, but if it makes you feel good, then I say go for it =D. Plus, just because I don’t eat something doesn’t mean that they can’t.

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  • Monica

    posted on August 20, 2009 at 10:28 pm

    I understand oatmeal has gluten, but what about peanut butter? Does it make you feel bad or do you have an allergy?
    I’m really enjoying your series. Thank you for sharing. It’s very encouraging.

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    Amy Reply:

    I haven’t tried GF oatmeal. I know they make it now but, for today, I’m not eating it. It’s a little embarassing to admit but I had a big problem with oatmeal. I ate it with everything. It took a while for me to realize that I was binging on oatmeal (this is the nature of food addiction…) and I just don’t want to test the waters with GF oatmeal today.

    As far as peanut butter goes, I had the same problem. It just took up too much space in my head – I thought about eating it, I stood with the cabinet door open, spoon in hand, eating it, and the worst part is that I felt bad about myself afterward. So I don’t eat it today. I’m much more peaceful. I tried almond butter the other day and it didn’t affect me at all. I don’t understand the ‘why’ behind it but I don’t need to. I trust my experience.

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  • Barbara

    posted on August 21, 2009 at 9:40 am

    Amy, thank you, thank you. Since I found your blog and am eliminating gluten, my head is clearer than it has ever been! You have expressed so much of what I feel with this series, I find it hard to put into words. You give me strength to continue eating in a manner that many people find so unusual that they make me feel they are rejecting me. I have been ‘worried’ about giving up a food that I really didn’t have to give up: however, after seeing that you had the willingness to give up miscellaneous foods, it gives me strength to ‘let go’. I am talking about rye and barley which are supposed to be high in gluten. I can give up milk and cheese, but I don’t want to give up yogurt. (maybe that tells me I should). This has been a blessing for me to be able to confide in you. I know you understand without judging. Thank you for your willingness to share. You are helping me change my eating habits and my life. I look forward to reading your blog and sharing with you. God bless you. Barbara

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    Amy Reply:

    Wow. Thank you. I do understand that feeling of rejection because of what you choose to eat. My extended family was the worst – especially around the holidays. The didn’t ‘get it’ and so they forced their thoughts and beliefs on me. I had to find the courage stand in my beliefs. I can tell you, though, that some of the same people that tried to shame me into eating what they thought was right are still struggling with their weight today and still jumping on the fad diet bandwagon. I, on the other hand, have peace around my food most of the time. (I say most because I’m not perfect!!) My weight is healthy and I have a fabulous life. Keep doing what you know works from you. You can do it!!

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  • Barbara

    posted on August 21, 2009 at 2:15 pm

    Amy, Have you found the need to give up rye and barley? Have you given up dairy? Can you eat flour products? Thank you for this wonderful support!! Barbara

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    Amy Reply:

    I don’t eat rye or barley – they both make me crazy & have gluten in them. I tried barley a long time ago and didn’t care for the taste anyway. My favorite grains are quinoa (here is a great recipe) and brown rice. You can eat quinoa without a lot of extras – on busy nights we have it with just salt, pepper, and a little butter or olive oil. I will post my oven-baked brown rice recipe soon – I always had trouble cooking it on the stove-top until I found out a few tricks.

    I do eat dairy. I don’t have a problem with it at all. I did, however, quit drinking milk in my coffee. I feel so much better without it.

    I don’t eat any flour products at all – I do use gluten-free flours to bake with.

    Hope that helps – let me know if you have any other questions.

    A big hug!!!

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  • Sunny

    posted on August 21, 2009 at 3:37 pm

    I too would echo the comments above…thank you for sharing! My natural practitioner (actually 2 of them) have suggested I not eat wheat and dairy. I do okay for a bit, feel great…and then something happens in my life that sends me back. My husband tries to be understanding but he thinks it’s all hog wash…I too feel much better when I don’t I don’t eat wheat or sugar. I haven’t been able to stick to it 100% As, I may have mentioned before…in the last two years I have lost between 60-70lbs. That’s a wonderful accomplishment and I am just now starting to find the sanity instead of the perfect. Okay, now I’m rambling but I just want to say I can very much relate to what you’re talking about! So, again THANKS.

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    Amy Reply:

    Sunny – Congrats! Those are HUGE accomplishments – and you were able to claim your fabulousness. That’s growth. 70 pounds is a lot of weight. I’ve lost that much, too, but for some reason I say 60. I guess it’s that silly fear that I’ll gain some back.

    I think that perfection is overrated. Sanity, on the other hand, is hard to come by these days. I love that you’re going for it!!

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    Sunny Reply:

    Thank you. I appreciate your thoughts. My cousins have also lost significant weight and yet all we talk about is getting to our goal weight and “being bad” over the weekend or vacation or whatever. I’m tired of thinking negatively when I can do things now that I would not have enjoyed 70 lbs ago…like dragon boating! Yet, I’m not terribly interested in starving or exercising like a maniac. It’s terribly important that people understand it has to be part of your daily life or it will drive you nuts and never stick.

    PS I totally know that fear of gaining it back!

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    Amy Reply:

    Couldn’t agree more – and isn’t it great to do things that you couldn’t have done when you were heavier??

  • Tracey

    posted on August 22, 2009 at 6:48 am

    Very thought-provoking post! I love the idea that it’s all about balance – which sometimes varies for me, depending on current circumstances. Right now I am in the process of making small changes in our family’s diet to improve our health. I’m trying to make more things from scratch and ensure that we always have fresh produce handy.

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  • Jenn AKA The Leftover Queen

    posted on August 24, 2009 at 11:52 am

    I was just thinking about things like this today – and how we are lead to believe that “healthy” means having a certain fat percentage. But I found when I was eating healthy food – for me that is lots of good fats – fish, nuts, avocados, lean meats and dairy I was never going to reach that fat percentage. But when I reduced it I went insane. Now that I am back to eating in a way that keeps me sane, even though I work out almost daily, I still have a bit of fat here and there – but does that mean I am “unhealthy”? I can push my body to the limit and make it work for me – does having a little extra fat or some trouble zones, automatically make me “unhealthy” because I don’t have the “correct” body fat percentage? No. I think making my body work for me, and having stamina is a benchmark for how healthy physically I am – not a number on a scale, or a number on a pair of jeans.

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    Amy Reply:

    Well said!! I have some fat here and there too. Perfection is way over-rated. I walk the dogs every day (about 45-50 mins) and do some basic strength training either at home or at the rec center. (I have to for my arthritis or I wouldn’t.) It’s taken years but today I think anyone’s opinion about my body fat and my problem areas is none of my business.

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